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SAFETY FIRST (the gift of fear)

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SAFETY FIRST

I spend way too much time talking about overcoming FEAR.

I suffer from the FEAR of never having enough.

What I am discovering is…

FEAR is a gift.

FEAR teaches us to search for SAFETY.

FEAR teaches us to BE STRONG, to BE RESILIENT, to be PERFECT.

FEAR motivates us to compete; as we play games we not only have fun but we acquire and hone the skills necessary for protecting those sources of SAFETY, our families, our institutions of learning, our jobs. It is in these places of SAFETY that we discover the FIRST (but often ignored) of life’s great gifts, The GIFT of LOVE.

And so…

FEAR teaches us COURAGE.

FEAR teaches us FAITH.

FEAR  teaches us to PROTECT each other.

LOVE on the other hand makes all this perfectionism unnecessary.

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I AM I DO

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Our first scream is an involuntary response to the first gasp. It occurs at the moment of our first sensation of fear; our first decision, our first affirmation and our initial attempt at managing our place in this new world.

This first noisy protest is interrupted with cradled arms and soft, cooing Mommy Words, which lend a hint that this dangerous world into which we have been thrust has an oasis of safety; ours for the price of a scream.

The calming voice, the gentle words are familiar to the newly initiated. The touch of Mother’s hands are a new sensation but it too is somehow, known.

Our first scientific experiment has begun.

This is our first experience at asking for and receiving Love, a sensation which will in future decades become confused with Approval.

Our  experiments will become more sophisticated if not necessarily objective; life and the events that greet us will be measured, examined, dissected and reassembled as we seek to secure Maximum Safety.

Life may be more difficult for those of us who have missed the touching and the softly spoken words of gentle parenting. Perhaps we ask for help.

Later, in the language of Mommy Words we may even ask another, untouched soul “May I lend a hand?”

And a Spark of The Spirit ignites the flame of LOVE.

I AM I DO 
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CHANGING CLIMES FOR CHANGING TIMES

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CHANGING CLIMES FOR CHANGING TIMES

CURIO:          You sure are quiet; what’s on your mind, Crazio?

PSYCHO:    Who are you to be calling me Crazio, Foolio?

CURIO:       You  changed the subject Quiet One. What’s going on?

PSYCHO:  I’m researching the other America. What’s your reason?

CURIO:       Me? I’m looking North.

PSYCHO:   North? It’s cold up there. We need to learn Portuguese.

CURIO:       And what about DOGMAN and BLONDIE?

PSYCHO:   Who?

 

FACING FACTS

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FACING FACTS

Several years ago I had a serious automobile accident. There were no broken bones but it took a plastic surgeon an entire workday to patch me up before everything turned into one big week-long bruise.

The bruised ego took a little longer; I was now overly cautious. I used some of the insurance money to buy a great bicycle and a few more bucks to make it fit my aging form with its sore spots.

I had a conversation with another  bicyclist this morning. We are both past 55 and attend the same 6:45 a.m., Wednesday Morning Men’s Meeting.

I often write about how people acquire information; Most members of any group tend to think like the group.

A few people prefer to make their own rules, group or no group. I am one of the latter.

Jerry apparently sticks to the Rules.

Our conversation had already gone through the dangers of riding in our neighborhood with its exceptionally heavy traffic and our means of arriving safely.

And now we spoke of riding at night.

Jerry: You do have headlight and tail light don’t you?

Lee: No. (I grinned sheepishly, certain that my answer would not meet with Jerry’s approval.)

Jerry: (shocked at my reply) You can’t be serious.
Why, for gosh sakes?

Lee: Night time is much safer, it seems; I ride on the right side of the street and I am in the headlights of  traffic approaching from the rear, long before I can hear them ; until they pass I now have the extra advantage of seeing several blocks ahead which gives me advance warning of dangers I would never have seen with a tiny bicycle headlight.

That’s on the low traffic streets. On the high traffic streets I find that the right line of a four lane street usually has plenty of space for a bike. I wear a safety yellow jacket or a bright yellow tee-shirt.

Drivers see those things long before they’d notice a tiny tail-light.

Another reason I don’t have lights is because they cost fifty bucks apiece.

Bike riders need to focus thirty to forty feet ahead; any closer increases the risk for losing balance, especially with the disadvantages of age.

Bicycle headlights provide very little light and can increase the danger of night riding.

The tail light may be even more dangerous.

The meeting came to order and 75 men prayed for safety from our addictions.

An hour later the meeting ended and Jerry left without saying goodbye.

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SELFISH DISHONEST SELF-SEEKING and FRIGHTENED

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Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened?
Everything with a nervous system seeks safety, primarily by clinging to others of its kind. In other words no matter what we have done on any given moment has been born of fear, self seeking and dishonesty.
Honesty is not a term that fits anything living. When the search for safety yields approval  from others of our ilk we tell ourselves that we are safe when in fact safety itself is not to be found but experienced. It is an attitude that prevails as a result of accepting God’s Love.

SAFETY FIRST

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SAFETY FIRST

I spend way too much time talking about overcoming FEAR.

I suffer from the FEAR of never having enough.

What I am discovering is…

FEAR is a gift.

FEAR teaches us to search for SAFETY.

FEAR teaches us to BE STRONG, to BE RESILIENT, to be PERFECT.

FEAR motivates us to compete; as we play games we not only have fun but we acquire and hone the skills necessary for protecting those sources of SAFETY, our families, our institutions of learning, our jobs. It is in these places of SAFETY that we discover the FIRST (but often ignored) of life’s great gifts, The GIFT of LOVE.

And so…

FEAR teaches us COURAGE.

FEAR teaches us FAITH.

FEAR  teaches us to PROTECT each other.

LOVE on the other hand makes all this perfectionism unnecessary.

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CONDITIONS OF APPROVAL

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CONDITIONS OF APPROVAL

 

Life among giants is tricky.

We begin by staying close to Mom.

We venture out.

We crawl.

We rise up on our haunches and we stumble.

We cry out for Mom but before our favorite Giant reaches us we are up again and on the move.

From the first hour after birth we search for safety.

We measure that safety in approval and in degrees of personal success.

We shout to an invisible horizon “I am not afraid”.

And even when disappointed beyond words we seek additional measures of approval.

 

We had begun one person at a time until one day we decided “more is better”.

More approval meant  more cooperation and less emphasis on being right.

We slowed the experimentation.

We adopted the attitudes and belief systems of a group.

We rebelled occasionally, unhappy with having opted to be less true to ourselves in favor of what? Safety? Fairness? (Fairness? Really?)

Why had we dismissed our Freedom?

We had a cup of coffee in the most popular coffee shop and thought about it.

(This isn’t so bad… is it?)

Is it?

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